In reading the Op-Ed piece by Bob Herbert entitled, “Why Aren’t We Shocked?“, I am left without a clear answer. However, one way to understand why may be to consider motivation(s). To simplify, let’s focus on the Abercrombie T-shirt that states,

I’m not as learned on the subject as I’d like to be, but I assume there are forces, both internal and external, that motivate a company to design and sell this T-shirt, as well as motivations in consumers to buy and wear them. Otherwise, assuming ours is a true, capitalistic system, the shirts would not be produced.
In ascertaining causation (answering why), one might analyze how entities affect each other. For example, does the media determine our desires and actions? If so, to what degree? Conversely, do we affect the media? One could ask the same questions of society, history, family, school, nature, and/or numerous other environmental factor(s).
“The company’s [Abercrombie & Fitch’s] success depends on the teenager’s basic psychological yearning to belong. And that means more than just selling the right kinds of clothes.” - Lauren Goldstein, The Alpha Teenager
This investigation reminds me of Global Climate Models (GCMs) which contain so many interdependent dynamic and unknown variables that their ability to predict and accurately characterize is seriously compromised. In this sense, this issue might be too complex to boil down into a neat and simple answer (intuitive thinking - NT!).
So, what to do?
The Op-Ed author (Bob Herbert) does not provide an answer to his own question (Why aren’t we shocked?). He seems truly stumped. Though, it is obvious from the tone that he feels strongly we should recognize the pervasiveness of sexism and objectification of women in our society and take action to curtail it. Though I don’t know how Mr. Herbert comes to this conclusion, I agree with him on this point. I believe that respect and love for another (whether spouse or stranger) should be mindful of their own sense of self. Focusing on someone’s parts for self-indugence is not related to connection (at least with that individual). This is not disrespectful in and of itself. However, I believe it can be unhealthy if the focus of one’s attention is not understood or respected.
This brings up two points:
- Direct interaction with diverse people (gender, race, economics, etc.) enables one to develop concepts (understanding) based on real experience versus social prejudice.
- Our innate desire to belong and feel safe must be tempered with [unconditional!] respect for humanity.
The first item can be embraced through public policy by encouraging diversity in schools and the workplace. Supporting programs that expose diverse, underrepresented groups in the public sphere would also be appropriate. The second item seems much more elusive and difficult to institute. There is so much impetus to act irrationally and disrespectfully toward others who threaten us (no matter the reason), that this behavior has become engrained into our households, governments, and cultures. To this end, it is little surprise that racism and all other -isms have been with us throughout history.
“In our society, straight white males of my generation - even earnestly egalitarian straight white males - cannot easily stop themselves from feeling guilty relief that they were not born women, or gay, or black… This is in part because of a calculation of the obvious socioeconomic disadvantage of being so born…” - Richard Rorty, Feminism and Pragmatism
Accordingly, much of what perpetuates inequality is rationalized to the point of ignorance/unconsciousness. I imagine that both the ‘powerful‘ and ‘powerless‘ often choose to overlook these issues. So, why aren’t we shocked? Partly because inequality is something that we’re used to. Also, fighting an issue that’s deeply entrenched in Western culture (others too) and seemingly perpetuated by human nature is both tiring and time consuming. Ugh. ;)
